Have you ever been hurt by something someone on Facebook or other "social network" has said to you? Have they managed to make you feel small and insignificant somehow? Well, if you said “yes” then I can certainly empathize!
when we feel hurt from the barbs of others, it’s because we have issues
from our past that need to be dealt with. If you know this to be true,
please seek professional help. After all, if you break your arm or you
have a kidney infection, you don’t try to hide it; you go to the
hospital for help. If your emotions are broken for some reason, you
need to get to the bottom of the problem so that you can be whole again.
The enemy knows what causes you pain, and he will
constantly use your brokenness against you, goading you, pushing your
buttons. But realize this: God cannot use “broken vessels!” If you
concentrate all your efforts and energy on the pain someone caused you,
then your thoughts remain on YOU all day, instead of God! How can you
be "all you were meant to be" if you refuse to take charge of what's
bothering you and move on so you can continue to learn and grow for
YHWH? Don’t allow someone to do this to you! Break free! (Please see our article which provides suggestions for healing broken emotions: http://www.therefinersfire.org/healing_from_abuse.htm)
Scripture tells us who we are:
139: 13 For you fashioned my inmost being, you knit me together in my
mother's womb. 14 I thank you because I am awesomely made, wonderfully;
your works are wonders -I know this very well. 15 My bones were not
hidden from you when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in
the depths of the earth. 16 Your eyes could see me as an embryo, but in
your book all my days were already written; my days had been shaped
before any of them existed.
Jeremiah 29: 11 For I know
what plans I have in mind for you,' says ADONAI,'plans for well-being,
not for bad things; so that you can have hope and a future. 12 When you
call to me and pray to me, I will listen to you. 13 When you seek me,
you will find me, provided you seek for me wholeheartedly; 14 and I will
let you find me,' says ADONAI. 'Then I will reverse your exile. I will
gather you from all the nations and places where I have driven you,'
says ADONAI, 'and bring you back to the place from which I exiled you.'
1: 3. Blessed be Elohim, the Father of our Master Y’shua the Mashiyach
who has blessed us with all blessings of the Spirit in heaven by the
Mashiyach: 4. According as He had previously chosen us in him, before
the foundation of the world, that we might be Set Apart and without
blame before Him; and, in love, as that before our beginnings for
Himself; 5. And adopted us for sons, in Y’shua the Mashiyach as was
agreeable to His will: 6. That the glory of His grace might be
glorified which He poured upon us by his Beloved One; 7. By whom we
have redemption and the forgiveness of sins by his blood, according to
the riches of his grace 8. Which has abounded in us, in all wisdom and
all spiritual understanding. 9. And he has made us know the mystery of
his will, which he had before determined in himself to accomplish
In the stewardship  of the fullness of times; that all things
might again be made new in the Mashiyach, things in heaven and (things)
on earth. 11. And in him we are elected, according as that before our
beginnings  and willed, who works all things according to the counsel
of his desire; 12. That we should be they who first hoped in the
Mashiyach, to the honor of his glory. 13. In whom you also have heard
the Word of Truth which is the Good News of your life, and have believed
in him; and have been sealed with the Ruach haKodesh who was promised;
14. Who is the earnest of our inheritance until the redemption of them
that are alive and for the praise of his glory. (AENT)
English versions insert “dispensation” here to bolster
“dispensationalism” and “replacement” theologies which were invented by
Christian theologians to syncretize Hellenism (cultural values of early
Catholic church founders) into Paul’s letters. In both Aramaic and
Greek the correct term is stewardship.
 Fullness of
times or the completion of the acharit hayamim (the latter days) is a
theme that Paul often visits (compare Romans 16:25; 1 Cor 7:26; 1 Thess.
5:1-3; 1 Timothy 4:1; 2 Timothy 3:1). The Shlichim assumed Y’shua
would return as Mashiyach ben David, even in their lifetimes.
Literally, “as that before our beginnings” rather than “predestined”
which was inserted to bolster the “predestination theology” that some
are created specifically for hell and others for heaven. Paul is
referring to the neshama (spirit of man) that is known of by YHWH from
before the beginning of time; however, man’s spiritual “destiny” is also
a matter of personal choice. Joshua 24:20 “If you forsake YHWH, and
serve strange elohim, then he will turn and do you hurt and consume you
after that he has done you good.” Ezekiel 18:20 “The soul that sinneth,
it shall die. The son shall not bear the iniquity of the father,
neither shall the father bear the iniquity of the son: the righteousness
of the righteous shall be upon him, and the wickedness of the wicked
shall be upon him.”
Scripture tells us where our focus needs to be:
4: 8. Finally, my Brothers, what things are true, and what things are
honest, and what things are just, and what things are pure, and what
things are beautiful, and what things are honorable in reporting, and
deeds of praise and virtuousness; on these your thoughts should focus.
9. What things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me,
these do you: and the Elohim of peace will be with you.
2: 1. If, therefore, you have consolation in the Mashiyach or if a
blending of hearts in love or if a fellowship of the Spirit, or if
compassions and sympathies; 2. make my joy perfected by having one
agreement and one love and one soul and one mind. 3. And do nothing in
strife or in vain glory; but, with humbleness of mind, let each regard
his neighbor as better than himself. 4. And let not each be anxious
(only) for himself, but everyone also for his neighbor. 5. And think
you so in yourselves, as Y’shua the Mashiyach also thought; 6. who, as
he was in the likeness of Elohim, did not regard it sinful to be the
coequal of Elohim; 7. yet disinherited himself and assumed the likeness
of a servant, and was in the likeness of men and was found in fashion
as a man; 8. and he humbled himself and became obedient to death, even
the death of the stake.
Matthew 5:5. Blessed are they who
are meek because they will inherit the earth. (Psalm 37:11; 149:4) 6.
Blessed are they who hunger and thirst for righteousness because they
will be satisfied. (Zephaniah 2:3; Psalm 11:3-7; Isaiah 66:11, 12) 7.
Blessed are they who are merciful because mercies will be upon them.
(Psalm 18:25; 2 Samuel 22:26) 8. Blessed are they who are pure in their
hearts because they will see Elohim. (Psalm 24:4; 51:10; 15:1, 2) 9.
Blessed are they who make peace because they will be called the sons of
Elohim. Psalm 122:8, 9; Isaiah 26:12; Psalm 7:3
(Notice what the above verses do NOT say? They do NOT say, “Blessed
are those who live to make you feel bad" or who like to tell you, you
are dumb for not doing things their way. They do not say "Blessed are
those who reject YHWH, Torah or YHWH’s Divine Messiah!”)
Scripture tells us that those who live to put us down are not behaving in a godly manner:
4:11-12 11. Speak not against each other, my Brothers; for he that
speaks against his brother, or judges his brother speaks against Torah
and judges Torah. And if you judge Torah, you are not a doer of Torah,
but its judge. 12. There is one Torah-giver and Judge who can
make alive and (can) destroy: but who are you that you judge your
 If you add your own judgments to
those already established in the Torah of YHWH, then you have judged
Torah as insufficient, and are not allowing it to be your judge.
One Torah Giver who gives One Torah. The halacha (way to observe
Torah) is revealed by the Ruach haKodesh, and demonstrated in
Mashiyach. The concept of “two torahs” one oral and one written is
the basis of authority on which the Rabbinate operates. “The Rabbis”
wrote their own “oral Torah” and give themselves the authority to
interpret it; unfortunately, their oral Torah often speaks against both
the Written Torah and haMashiyach. On the other hand, Christian
theologians have made up their own “New Testament” based on their own
non-Torah cultural value systems which makes void Torah and diminishes
the true goal of Mashiyach.
James 1:22. But be doers
of the Word, and not hearers only; and do not deceive yourselves. 23.
For if any man will be a hearer of the Word and not a doer of it, he
will be like one who sees his face in a mirror: 24. for he sees himself
and passes on and forgets what a man he was. 25. But everyone that
looks upon the perfect Torah of liberty and lives fully in it, is not a
hearer of something to be forgotten, but a doer of the things; and he
will be blessed in his work. 26. And if any one thinks that he
worships Elohim and does not subdue his tongue, but his heart deceives
him; his worship is desolate. 27. For the worship that is pure and Set
Apart before Elohim the Father, is this: to visit the fatherless and the
widows in their affliction; and: that one keep himself without blemish
from the world. (AENT)
 While there are two different
Aramaic words for “hear” and “do” the word for “hear” in Aramaic also
means “to do”; the Hebrew equivalent, shema, means the same. Ya’akov’s
Hebraic thought and intention are clearly represented in this verse.
13:1. Let love for the Brothers dwell among you. 2. And do not forget
kindness to strangers; for by this some have been privileged to
entertain Messengers without even knowing!
Scripture also tells us what WE need to do about those who have hurt us:
12: 17. And repay to no man evil for evil: but let it be your study to
do good before all men. 18. And if possible, so far as it depends on
you, live in peace with every man. 19. And be you not avengers of
yourselves, my beloved: but give place to wrath. For it is written: If
you do not execute judgment for yourself, I will execute judgment for
you, says Elohim. 20. And if your adversary be hungry, feed him: and
if he be thirsty, give him drink. For if you do these things, you will
heap coals of fire on his head. 21. Do not be overcome by evil; but
overcome evil with good. (AENT)
 D’varim 32:35; Psalm
94:1; Prov. 20:22 There are no directives from B’resheet/Genesis to
Revelation which counsels anyone to take vengeance upon their
adversaries. YHWH says, “vengeance belongs to Me”; He will judge and
resolve all matters according to His Righteous Judgment. The idea of
taking vengeance upon others, as in jihad or holy war against the
infidels, is rooted in fear and heathenism by those who put their faith
in self rather than in Alaha (Elohim).
Here is what YHWH thinks of most “religious” types (including those who love to sit behind their keyboards to belittle you):
29: 13 Then Adonai said: "Because these people approach me with empty
words, and the honor they bestow on me is mere lip-service; while in
fact they have distanced their hearts from me, and their 'fear of me' is
just a mitzvah of human origin 14 therefore, I will have to keep
shocking these people with astounding and amazing things, until the
'wisdom' of their 'wise ones' vanishes, and the 'discernment' of their
'discerning ones' is hidden away."
1 John 4: 19. Let us,
therefore, love Elohim; because he has first loved us. 20. And if any
one will say, I love Elohim, and yet hates his brother, he is a liar:
for he that loves not his brother who is visible, how can he love Elohim
who is invisible? 21. And this command we have received from him, that
whoever loves Elohim, must love also his brother.
fret no longer! Don't allow ANYONE to make you feel inferior! YHWH
loves you, and He wants you to be whole for Him and whole-hearted towards
Him. Don't give mean people the power to take this away from you. YOU
know who you are!
And honestly, what "they" think of you doesn't really
matter in the grand scheme of things....